'Instead, these fantasies can offer a portal into aspects of our non-sexual emotions that we're trying to reconcile in our day-to-day lives.'Īnd, sometimes, those fantasies can be a little troubling-like, say, fantasizing about having sex with someone besides your partner. But you shouldn't take your sexual fantasies so literally.Īs intense as sexual fantasies may be, 'we may not actually want to do them,' says Cyndi Darnell, a clinical sexologist based in New York City. And fantasizing about those things are fun, because you just might get them one day. People fantasize about a lot of things: a no-expenses-barred vacation in Bora Bora, finally getting promoted to the corner office, one full day where no one wants or needs a single thing from you.
